I’m stranded for the next 15 minutes at the airport so I guess I’ll bullet point the thought processes I wanted to have while working at the daycare.
- Nothing is really gained from crap talking your coworkers
- Everyone’s reasonings are not the same as yours
- Little acts of kindness can make a drastic change
- It gets easier to control your emotions the more you practice
To elaborate on these bullet points, I’d like to make a few comments. Firstly, at the beginning of my daycare career, I observed plenty of coworkers simply choosing to wait until a particular coworker was gone before bashing them and wondering why they weren’t doing any better. At first, I was getting frustrated along with them, but it occurred to me, one day, that the coworkers talking crap weren’t making any effort to better that coworker. All they did was just assume the poor person would figure it out and until then, things would become tense and uncomfortable. This became such a problem, it was brought up in our monthly meetings and we all had to listen to the directors and assistant directors lecture us as though we were in high school.
Secondly, I’ve had days where I was certain that the reason someone did something, was to spite my team or I. A parent or coworker could say or do something and my team and I would be talking about it all day, thinking they were doing it just to get under our skin and sometimes their true nature would come out and I’d feel like a complete idiot for mentally making them out to be the bad guy. I decided I needed to stop thinking this way. Just because someone decides to do somethings, whether it inconveniences you or not, does NOT always mean they are out to get you. Everyone thinks differently, so their point A to point B won’t be the same as yours.
Thirdly, I’ve had my crap days at work- mostly when we were understaffed- and I’d found that some of the parents could tell when the day had been long. It was usually the parents that were very chill and kind, so they would say or do things for us and help us feel better. I started noticing that even them saying little things or holding a conversation outside of their child would really lighten my mood. In fact, I had a particular parent that would come in around the time we were closing to pick her kid up. I never minded having to wait so long with him being the last toddler because his mom was so fun to talk to and we’d swap funny stories about the toddlers we knew. So, what I’m trying to get at is that I started doing little things for others because it could go a long way, you never know. Plus, it was fun and it made me feel better because I’m always trying to figure out if I’m actually a good person or not.
Lastly, when I first started at the daycare, I will admit I was certain my temper would get the best of me one day. Especially with the two year olds and in one particular two year old room, as well. I struggled until I was moved into the infant room and I immediately realized that infants were a lot easier to handle. But, I also knew that I needed to change my temper, especially since, at the time, I was going to make a living out of teaching children (I love how this job helped me realize I didn’t actually want to do this). So, during our monthly meetings, I would pay close attention to the articles we were given and tried my best to use them in the classrooms. I felt like I was failing a lot at the beginning, but as time went on, I could see that I was getting better. So, I used this to tag along with my general emotions. The times that I started stressing, I would stop, remind myself to think logically, and go from there. Granted, I’m still working on it, but it has helped me not over-react in situations.
So, even though I chose not to continue my career in education, this job has helped me to change many negative aspects of thinking and I won’t forget that!