Tip #2 Register for classes ASAP

Credit: I don’t even remember where I got the meme from but please enjoy it.

I’ve learned the easy and hard way about registering! During my orientation for community college, I was able to get all the classes that I wanted which helped to set my hours and get more days to work. However, during the next semester, when I had to do my own registering, I was lazy and waited a week or two in and found that a lot of the classes that I wanted were full or were at times that would inconvenience me, so my second semester was a little crazy. Again, register for classes as soon as you can! Plus getting it out of the way will result in one less thing you have to worry about, later on.

Also, if you and one of your friends want to have a class together you’ll both be more likely to be successful. 🙂

Life Update!

I have officially decided not to attend university this semester after some time of anxiety induced thinking! I wanted to go into childhood education but I am not sure I am fit for this degree. Instead, I think I’d rather be in something a little more technical and creative, maybe media or journalism.

I have to say that after about a month of long nights and stomach knots, I’m happy with my decision to stay out of college until I know what direction I want to head in. I was about two weeks away from signing my life to a loan that I doubt I’d be able to pay within 5 years and that was only for a single semester, yeesh! Now my next step in happiness is finding a job and one of my former coworkers is trying to assist me in getting a job where she is located, so fingers crossed I can jump on that ship!

I just want to stop stressing so much about life. My problem was that I was worrying about 1) my future job, 2) my living situation, 3) my degree and tuition plans. It’s honestly definitely too much for someone like me!

I just want this trip to Maine to be filled with happiness, please! Is that too much to ask?!

Apartment hunting takes so much out of you!

I don’t even mean just $$$! I’m exhausted and I haven’t even left my computer screen! My wallet feels empty and I haven’t even spent anything! I’m already feeling that anxious pressure of “Will I be able to make rent” and I haven’t even moved in and started another job! I’ve already put my two weeks in at my current place of work and it’s hard finding another job when you don’t even know where you’re going to move next. We( one of my best friends and I) have a general idea but there’s a possibility we could move to another city and I’m already going to be using some gas to get to school, which is currently about two cities away. I could work somewhere around there but it’s already such a drive. I’d just be putting myself in the position I was in during my time at the community college. I’d be waking up extra early to drive over half an hour, one way, just to get to my classes and if I don’t have them, then just to where I work. It would just be easier to find a job that’s close to where I live so on the days I’m not going to school, I’m not using a ton of gas, right?

The thing is, is I’ve worked in fast food for most of my life- minus these last 8 months- and I have zero want to get back into that! I don’t want to get into sales because I’ve heard the horror stories and know that it can be quite similar to serving which was hell on my anxiety. These last 8 months have been in childcare which has been a blast and I keep getting attached to my babies- as one does- so I’m extremely sad to be leaving but the reason is not only for the move but also it’s starting to look a little shady. I won’t go into detail because that’s just not what I want to talk about right now but I’m trying to figure out if I want to go this route for my next job, for wherever we move! I’ll figure it out eventually, right?

Right now I just need to focus on figuring out where we are going to live! Although I’ve got a looming plane ride to Maine coming up in about 3 weeks. I’ll try and worry about that later, though. This is kind of more important.

I wanna share something I wrote mid June-ish —Long Story

First and foremost, I just wanna add that this man I wrote about, is now my boyfriend! 🙂

Introverts can date?- Long story

This is news to me and here’s the story of how I recently found this out.

Pre-story info: A guy I’ve liked for roughly 6 months now asked me to go to a wedding for a friend of his. Sure, as long as that friend was okay with it because let’s be honest, who would want someone they’ve only briefly met in a Wal-Mart at their wedding? She said yes and my crush- we’ll call him Link for nerdy reasons- offered to let me stay the night.

Link, his roommate, two other friends who I vaguely knew (Although I do share an inside joke with one of them thanks to a rat and a bar), and myself arrived after roughly 2 hours of driving and just as we were walking up to the church, one of them made a comment about this being a Catholic and Mexican wedding. Whatever though, right? I can generally tough out religious situations as long as I just go with the flow. What I did not expect was an hour of not understanding the priest and not knowing if I needed to stand up like 3/4 of the congregation was doing. Also, why was he putting crackers directly in some people’s mouth but handing it to others? It was okay, though. Link and I shared comfort in our confusion and just kind of awkwardly laughed it off.

Anyway, so afterward, the five of us headed to a shopping center to kill some time before the reception and I was having a blast because it had been so long since I’d spent time with Link. He’s a GENTLEMEN gentlemen type- i.e. holds doors open for you, offers to pay for small things, offers to hold your bag. At first, I thought it was cute because that means he cares and I know he likes me as the night before, I got to watch his face as his roommate texted him that I liked him and that’s a story for another time. So, I’m fine with it until we get to the reception. Lemme give you a short list of what I experienced and if it comes out crude, just remember that I don’t enjoy these things and didn’t even know they were going to occur. I suspect no one at our table really did.

1.) Mexicans love to dance and play music which is a duh, but what was not completely obvious was the fact that they were going to play Mexican music at full blast, zero stops, no we will not turn down the volume this is not a fucking library, and you are going to leave this place with a ringing in your ears for some time.

I HATE being in social situations that are not only hella loud, but I also don’t know anyone outside the table. If I’d had more confidence at the time, I’d be more inclined to talk but I really just wanted to leave. We did. And no one could hear very well for a few minutes after we left. With our ears still ringing and my mood deteriorating fast, I became increasingly annoyed at any little thing. Link was following me around the mall we’d decided to visit, Link held doors open for all of us, Link tried to hold my purchased items for me, his roommate refused to tip the waiter because he wasn’t perfect, then everyone else wanted to go back to the reception because, by that time, the Mexican music would be over and other types of music would be playing. I didn’t say anything because I’m always an anxious person and had already decided I was done with the night. I did what anyone with best friends in other states did and texted them for advice. My best friend A told me to call her after I told everyone I wanted to be alone. I told Link this but for some reason, he just said “That’s fine,” and then proceeded to sit down by me. At the time, he was most likely trying to be supportive, but I just got annoyed again. After a minute or two, I told him I was going for a walk and called A up. I don’t remember how long the call lasted but it was long enough for my battery to drain from 18% to 3% and for my mood to be lifted like how the rapture occurs in movies and TV shows. I went back in, apologized to Link, although he could probably barely hear me, and after about 5 minutes of awkwardly standing next to him while I squeezed my hands and fingers, he suggested we get out of the loud ass room and back outside. He told me he knew I hated the noise and when we sat down I explained my anxiety the best way I could to him.

1.) Once again, I’m not a big fan of prolonged loud noises, especially when I’m in new social situations.

2.) I have social anxiety, used to take anti-depressants for it but felt I was being lazy by taking meds because I had told myself that my anxiety “just isn’t that bad.”

3.) I’m a highly selfish person when it comes to my alone time. I love it more than anything and even get tired of having people I’m very close to around me.

4.) I can only take so much social interaction. My meter was full, I wanted to go home.

Yes, I know this is all selfish of me and I was probably seen as a major buzzkill, but nothing I was doing by myself was cheering me up and sometimes I have to call my friends for help to avoid situations from worsening. I can proudly say that most of the time, I’m pretty good at handling things myself but all of this was new to me. The good news: Link took it surprisingly well. He was very calm and told me he understood because he would get anxious as well, although he is better maintained (that last part wasn’t something he said. it was just something I noted at the time). 

So, after all of this, I realized that introverts and people with anxiety actually have a chance at dating. Yes, I am 21 years old and I finally have a relationship starting to bloom that is healthy. All because he is patient and understanding and even though I may burden him with my anxiety, he can actually handle it and not immediately become irritated and disinterested. He had my comfort and happiness in mind the whole time and after my shitty mood ended, I never felt more like an asshole for getting frustrated with him for just doing little things for me. I have quickly become more infatuated with him and plan to ask him out the next time we are alone together.

What are the little ticks that come with your anxiety?

I am not sure if there is an actual term for this as I have always called it that, but I’m basically asking what is the main gesture(s) you do that lets people around you know that you are experiencing some form of anxiety.

Mine is fiddling with my hands and fingers: i.e. squeezing my fingertips or hands or just clasping my them together. If I am really anxious I will pinch or squeeze my arms. Sometimes I may entangle my fingers together but that’s when my anxiety is low.

Tip #1 Tax-Free Weekend!

If you live in one of the few states that do Tax-Free Weekend, go for it! Shop for your school supplies and get them much cheaper! Here is a list of all the states that I could find that does this. This list is courtesy of DealNews.com

  • Alabama July 19-21
  • Arkansas August 3-4
  • Connecticut* August 18-24
  • Florida* August 2-4
  • Iowa August 2-3
  • Maryland August 11-17
  • Massachusetts* August 10-11
  • Mississippi* July 26-27
  • Missouri* August 2-4
  • New Mexico* August 2-4
  • Ohio August 2-4
  • Oklahoma* August 2-4
  • South Carolina* August 2-4
  • Tennessee July 26-28
  • Texas August 9-11
  • Virginia August 2-4
  • Wisconsin* July 31- August 4

Note: States marked with an asterisk (*) are not yet confirmed. (Once again, this is from DealNews.com)

There may be some date changes or some places that may be added. Just be sure to look into your state to know more details. Tax-Free Weekend can apply to clothes, books, school supplies, etc. You just have to look more into your state to see what their set up is going to be.

I highly recommend this to help save money! My family had to do this before college. Once college did hit, I was buying my own supplies and I didn’t have a lot of money to spend. It’s very helpful and I really wish all the states had Tax-Free Weekend.

Something to say before the first tip!

Credit (photo): Tombik Studios

I’ve been so excited to share these tips with you all! Before I even finished high school, I was nervous to start my college career and didn’t have a clue of what the next two and a half years were going to teach me. It’s scary when all your friends are going to different colleges, maybe even in different states or countries, and you may feel that fear grow if you have such bad anxiety as I do. I started in community college for my Associates in Science so the experience has been relatively medium for me but this coming Fall I’ll be in a large university a few cities away. Of course, I’ll be sure to add what I’ll be learning there to this blog.

Regardless, college is not to be taken lightly. The experience is very different from high school in so many ways! College gives you a taste of the real world and it is different than what they teach you in high school, at least it has been for my friends, family, and I. And just so you all know, the stuff you’ll learn is more than just how to budget. Life experiences are ripe and ready for you whether you realize them as they are happening or maybe even later on in life. It’s up to you if you choose to accept this mission, to learn life while learning in college. And trust me, college is not meant for everyone and that is 100% alright. It’s hard on you mentally and physically so don’t take this path on your journey lightly.

You can; however, take what your about to read with a grain of salt if you want to learn about college differently. So, with formalities out of the way, let’s get into the tips, shall we?

Welcome!

I don’t know exactly how to start this introduction, so I’ll jump right into it! I go by IffyBiffy for two reasons: 1) A big part of the Username was a nickname my Mimi used to call me 2) and I’m almost always Iffy about something! I’m on here in the hopes of sharing some college tips for anyone who feels they might could prosper from this! 🙂 And I’m totally up for sharing about my problems with anxiety and the constant fight to keep my dark clouds away! Don’t be afraid to reach out to talk about either! 🙂